Tuesday, May 26, 2020

Sex Lies and Conversation Cause and Effect Essay

Sex Lies and Conversation Cause and Effect EssayIn her Deborah Tanen Article Sex Lies and Conversation Cause and Effect Essay Samp student, Stephanie, challenges us to find our own conversation topic. She does this in a very realistic way. 'You probably had a conversation about which sex you want to be with (and make your partner happy), how old you are, what you want, and what kind of family you want. What if you never have any of those conversations? What if your current husband had never made those kinds of conversations with you or did those kinds of things?'When I first read Deborah Tanen's, I thought the topic of conversation was too obvious. That the topic was so clearly the topic that we have all had before - it just happened that it was on tape or videotape. If you were never around those conversations or did not make them and they were your subject, then it wasn't really a conversation, but a mere transaction of words.That is why Deborah Tanen does such a good job of highli ghting the problems with that particular method of conversation. By not making that the central focus of the conversation, we do not get to see the difference between real conversations and transactions of words. When you were young, you might have been surrounded by conversations - but did not think much about the content or intent of those conversations.So, when Deborah Tanen asks the reader to imagine making that conversation, her point is clear. Instead of just seeing the changes between the subject, the reader has to imagine the change that is taking place between the subject. If the subject continues to talk about her time spent with her parents, then she will begin to think about her time spent with her parents and how that will affect her. If she continues to talk about 'her' family and how that affects her then she will begin to see that she is no longer part of the family but separate from it.Deborah Tanen also makes us remember that the subject never actually stops talkin g. It is often hard to see the subject for who she is, and this may make it harder to know when she is only speaking about herself and not about you or about anyone else. If you are able to look past the subject, and the conversation itself, you will be able to see that she has no real interest in you as a person. Her desire is only to talk about herself. And you will see that you, too, want to talk about yourself.Deborah Tanen's goal is to make the topic and the conversation the subject. And she is very successful in doing so. As she writes, 'If you don't think you are good enough to talk about yourself, and you don't care to think about yourself, then you don't want to change.' The result is that you get a whole different experience when you start looking at the subject as a person and not as a subject.Deborah Tanen's lesson in 'Sex Lies and Conversation Cause and Effect Essay Samp' is a lesson in life. She is not asking us to change or lose ourselves in order to survive. The only change that she asks us to make is to recognize that we can see the subject for who it is and that we can then change the conversation from one of sex to one of the other things we want to talk about.

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